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Radical Candor

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'Radical Candor' in a one-on-one professional setting

Radical Candor is an overlooked asset in creating high-performance teams when that candor is built upon a foundation of trust. I’ve discovered that evoking transformation can often require radical candor. However, when properly applied, the transformation can resemble a metamorphosis. The Harvard Business Review article One Out of Every Two Managers Is Terrible at Accountability starts with:

“Out of all the things we expect of leaders — taking charge, setting strategy, empowering people, driving execution, you name it. What one single behavior would you guess is most often neglected or avoided among executives? Seeing the big picture? No. Delegating? Not either. Mapping out detailed project plans? No again. Although many upper-level managers don’t do these things enough, by far and away the single-most shirked responsibility of executives is holding people accountable.“

Especially in tough times where moral can be low, constructive and inspiring feedback can be the difference between an inspired employee and one that becomes a quiet quitter. Many of the factors that lead to people quitting or quiet quitting.

Radical Candor also for High Performers

While we often think of having tough conversations with low performers, these conversations may be equally valid with top performers. When someone isn’t “meeting expectations” one should ask what expectations does one have? It’s reasonable to have high expectations for top performers and to help them step up to meet their potential.  Since Kim Scott published Radical Candor – Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity, leaders are expected to leverage “Radical Candor.“

Radical Candor – Four foundational elements

  1. Establish a relationship of trust
    In order to have any successful candid conversation, there must be mutual trust. The journey should begin in all cases by establishing trust.
  2. Have the employee’s best interest at heart
    Note, if you don’t start with believing it yourself, you’ll not be able to convince them. Once you are sure you have their best interest at heart, you can start to ensure they also recognize that.
  3. Believe in them
    As John Maxwell put it “When you believe in someone and demonstrate that belief, they begin believing in themselves too.” Note, they also then start believing in you
  4. Differentiate between Intent and Impact
    Without establishing that you believe they have good intent, they will be defensive and not able to absorb constructive feedback.
Radical Candor a la Bi-Jingo, LTD

These things are relatively easy to do for our top performers; why should they not apply to others? As part of leadership development at Pure Storage, Laura from Bi-Jingo, LTD gave us a few Performance Based Training sessions. These were on Meaningful Check-ins and Feedback Conversations (I can highly recommend these). Laura opened the session with a question. Raise your hand if you cringe at the thought of a conversation with a challenged employee that holds upward aspirations. As all the hands went up, I reluctantly raised mine as well. I was actually lying by doing so. In truth, I actually enjoy those conversations tremendously.

Adam Grant – 19 word of Feedback Wisdom in 19 Seconds: “I’m giving you these comments because I have very high expectations, and I’m confident that you can reach them.”

Key take-away if we hope to be high-impact managers:

We worked through four scenarios in separate groups. One employee that showed promise, had high aspirations and expectations. However, they also faced with challenges that prevented them from operating at the level they saw themselves.
We may cringe at the thought of being candid with an employee with challenges. We may be preventing them from actually performing at the level where they see themselves. Perhaps it is us that are not performing as the high-impact managers we’d like to believe we are. Should we not relish these opportunities?

Tough conversations are one of many opportunities for leaders to take on a challenge and have an impact. We can leave an employee empowered and excited to overcome obstacles preventing them from performing at the next level. Approach these conversations from the perspective of having discovered an opportunity to help. Entering the conversation with an optimistic mindset may help the recipient be less defensive and more receptive to feedback.

Don’t Give Feedback, Offer Advice

Adam Grant cites research that suggests the nuance between giving feedback and offering advice can matter as one is looking backward and the other is looking forward. Advice is more actionable and is and comes across as being in service of the recipient.

For Yourself

Especially in tough times, where motivation may be low, where chances of a raise may be slim, and
prospects of a promotion seem distant, …

It’s important to look forward and consider growth opportunities that may arise from tough times.
Now is a time to invest in the future. There may be rewards down the road, when times are better. Times of darkness are times to shine.

For Your Team

Especially in tough times, where motivation may be low, where chances of a raise may be slim, and
prospects of a promotion seem distant, … Provide opportunities to grow and learn. Offer them something to hope and strive for. Offer advice and assistance, not in-actionable feedback.
Turn what may seem like dark prospects for them into a brighter future they have a hand in.

Don’t Motivate, Inspire

Especially in tough times, people may be down due to layoffs and slim prospects of extrinsic motivations like a raise or promotion. These are times were the risk that feedback demotivates is greatest. However, these may also be times where opportunity to shine and have an impact are greatest. That is a great time to look forward and inspire people,. Hlep them see the opportunity, advise them how they might capitalize on opportunities to invest in their depth and future.

Here too, leveling matrices can come in handy to show what is expected at the next level. As their manager, you can help look for opportunities to acquire skills / demonstrate the ability to perform at that level. Simon Sinek puts it succinctly by suggesting we inspire instead of motivating.

5 Questions to ask before giving feedback

  1. Is your intent to deliver feedback that will help the recipient of the feedback?
  2. Do you believe that whatever you’re giving feedback on was rooted in good intent even if the outcome was sub-optimal?
  3. Will delivering feedback bring value to the recipient?
  4. Are you the best person to deliver this feedback such that the most value be derived?
  5. Is now the best time to deliver this feedback such that the most value be derived?

Radical Candor – Leaving the Comfort Zone in Interviews

An interview scene with the interviewee has been asked a question that goes beyond their knowledge

When interviewing engineers, strive to get them out of their comfort zone. Presenting them with problems they haven’t seen . Use variations until we find something that they’re entirely unfamiliar with. We solve new, hard problems as we innovate. We want to hire engineers who love the challenge of solving really hard problems in innovative ways. Some are exhausted at the end of a day of really tough questions. Challenges may not give them energy. If they’re excited about the opportunity to stretch the limits of their abilities, then they’ve come to the right place.

Similarly for managers; we want managers that love challenges. I’m not saying we have incredibly difficult engineers that pose challenges unlike any manager has seen before 😉 We want to hire/promote managers up to the challenge of taking top talent and finding ways to inspire/challenge them. We’d like to enable them to be great at innovating, collaborating, solving tough problems. We should help them grow past limits that were only imagined.

Growing includes leveraging trainers and bringing in teams like Laura’s to expand our manager tool-set for meeting such challenges. Managers are learning to use radical candor and discovering a love and passion for working through challenges. We learn to see the positive impact that can have when leveraged appropriately. Kim Scott, executive coach and author of Radical Candor believes it’s about caring personally when delivering feedback.

Radical Candor – Where to Begin the Journey

I was asked if saying things positively just comes naturally in a recent coaching/mentoring conversation. It seems to come from a place of genuinely having good intent to help the person we’re delivering feedback to. As described in Where to Begin the Journey, I believe if you don’t have that intention, people will know it. It will help to genuinely state your intention to be helpful; this is a premise that both Scott and Grant underscore. Scott also advises us to be humble as we may be wrong in what we perceived as an issue. Ray Dalio also underscores the cornerstone values of “radical truth” and “radical transparency” in Principles – Life and Work.

In Eric Schmidt’s Trillion Dollar Coach he underscores Bill’s caring with candor. Bill excelled at and modeled building close connections of trust. However, he also provided very direct feedback that may have seemed harsh but always came from a place of caring. At Intuit, I had the privilege of experiencing how that approach permeated management. This was particularly in my time with Brad Smith whom Bill had groomed. I highly recommend Eric’s book to gain further insight into Bill’s hugely successful approach to leadership.

Understand the Root Causes and Influences

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If any employee’s performance has changed, there may be other influences at work that can both affect their performance and any feedback conversations. Similarly, even what happened on the way to work for yourself and/or the other person can influence how a conversation starts out. As such it may also be of value to ask open-ended questions that could help you root cause what other vectors may be at play – see Vectors of Influence.

VP of Engineering, Rukmini Reddy describes the challenges she faced in Becoming a bad-ass engineering leader: 5 tried and true lessons from a woman of color. She makes a clear distinction: Candor is not criticism from her experience. “The difference between feedback that is meant to keep you in your place (criticism) and feedback that is meant to help you grow (candor).”

In High Output Management, Andy Grove makes the distinction

When a person is not doing his job, there can only be two reasons for it.
The person either can’t do it or won’t do it; he is either not capable or not motivated.
To determine which, we can employ a simple mental test:
if the person’s life depended on doing the work, could he do it?
If the answer is yes, that person is not motivated; if the answer is no, he is not capable.
This insight enables a manager to dramatically focus her efforts.
All you can do to improve the output of an employee if motivate and train.
There is nothing else.

Learning to Love Criticism

As managers, we should strive to find opportunities to dish out constructive criticism in such a way that our employees not only internalize it as inspiration to do more but actually seek out and crave that kind of criticism. Much as employees have learned to love criticism at Bridgewater according to Adam Grant. Or love to foster creativity as it’s done on the Daily Show by not fearing criticism; we should strive for the same.

Naturally, not every approach works with everyone in every situation. We strive to build relationships of trust and understanding so that we have the context to customize the interactions to the best outcome. Likewise, we need to navigate each situation according what we discover works in that specific conversation for we may not be conscious of the impact of something that may have transpired at home before work that day for us or our employee that completely changes the frame of mind we each bring into the conversation. As Steven Covey described with the man on the subway in his 7 Habits book, we shouldn’t assume we are aware of all the factors influencing someone else’s behavior.

We strive to hire 10x engineers who love challenges and foster an environment to grow great engineers into phenomenal engineers to become and remain 10x engineers by being 10x managers that also love the challenges of working on various fronts to keep us being a 10x business. Positivity and productivity exist where transparency and challenges are sought out.

Radical Candor Aided by Curiosity

Sheila Heen in her course on Difficult Conversations, makes the point that we should enter a difficult conversation with a curiosity to understand the other person’s perspective (which typically differs from ours) rather than with the intent to convince them of our perspective. In my experience to be curious about how they feel, where they’re coming from, why their perspective differs from mine and not only be enlightening for me, but it can also reduce the defensive barriers that lets the other person also become more curious about where I’m coming from and why… Sheila further goes on to suggest from coming from a place of seeking blame (looking backwards) to Joint Contribution which assumes that in most situations everyone somehow contributed to a discord.

Intent vs Impact

In an ally training at work, we were asked some hypothetical questions. One of them was” “If someone were you approach you and say to your face: ‘You are a racist and a bigot!’ how would you feel?” The visceral reaction is of course one of defensiveness. The idea was for us to empathize with someone we might call out. I prefered a reframing: “I’d like to help you understand what you just said could be heard as racist.” This can shift from defensiveness to curiosity, It is a shift from head on confronting them by implying we know another person’s intent when they do or say things to standing next to them and considering the possible impact on others. Regardless of whatever the actual intent may be, this is more likely to allow for a constructive conversation.

The other kind of “Impact” that can be helpful here is helping the other person appreciate the positive impact a change can have on their effectiveness and career.

This can apply in many situations including the workplace. When addressing an issue at work, it can be very different to stand shoulder to shoulder with an employee when looking at a bad outcome from the perspective of together let’s figure out what went wrong to help avoid it in the future – seeing it as an opportunity. It’s more likely to initiate a productive conversation that a face-to-face, finger pointing confrontation a la “you messed up!”

Nose-to-Nose vs Shoulder-to-Shoulder

Radical Candor - Nose to Nose vs Shoulder to Shoulder

When there is conflict in the workplace, it is vital for success to first establish within ourselves that we believe in the other person/people having good intent at their core. Only then should we attempt a conversation with any hope of establishing trust or providing constructive feedback that you hope to be received in a positive manner. Holding this belief ourselves helps us convey our intent of being helpful; this is crucial in allowing others to receive. As humans, our egos have us shut down to feedback and go into defensive or denial mode when we feel attacked.

There are two fundamental questions to ask of all participants before entering into a potentially conflict-laden discussion:

  1. Is there any doubt in anyone’s mind whether everyone here is genuinely solving for the best outcome for the business?
  2. Is there any doubt in anyone’s mind that no one here harbors ill will towards anyone else here?

If everyone feels clear that the answers to both questions above are “no”, then the search for the best outcome will occur shoulder-to-shoulder. If the answer to either question above is “yes” for anyone in the conversation, that needs to be resolved first. Without getting to the bottom of a “yes” to either question, the odds of getting to the optimal solution are very slim.

Note, If the answer are both unanimous “no”s then perhaps there are two follow-on questions:
3. Even with good intentions, does someone believe harm was caused to the business?
4. Even with good intentions, does someone believe harm was caused to another person?

Vectors of Influence

No matter how carefully you think through, word and time your feedback, it may not land well, and there may be things beyond your control that influence the receptiveness. There may also be things beyond the conversation that influence your ability to deliver the feedback in the moment to that person. So, no matter how much you prepared in advance for the timing and delivery, its also important to check your gut at the start of the conversation on whether the person is in a good state to receive relative to how they usually are. See more at Vectors of Influence.

Vectors of Influence

Fear is Healthy, Panic is Deadly

In the movie Chasing Mavericks, the young surfer returns to the boat after a bad spill. His mentor asks, Why did you panic? The young surfer embarrassingly admits that he was afraid. His mentor comments: “Fear is healthy, panic is deadly.“

When a startup is going through challenging times where staying the course can lead to failure, it is healthy to recognize the risk and consciously course correct – fear is healthy. On the other hand, over-reacting and looking for the first thing or person to point a finger at may cause you to swerve back-and-fourth on your path and also crash – panic is deadly. Or, it could cause you to overlook a more fundamental issue or root cause and you continue on your path towards failure.

So too with giving and receiving feedback. Looking for reasons to be concerned and making course corrections is healthy. Relying on quick, harsh feedback and drastic corrective measures can also be deadly.

Receiving Radical Candor

In my post at Villains.blog, I speak to another way to deal with a confrontation...

Radical Candor - Redirecting Energy

In various marital arts, one learns to redirect the opponent’s energy. The harder they come at you, the more they’ll be off balance and the more energy you’ll have to work with. This technique is used in various martial arts including Tai Chi Chuan, Aikido, and Ju Jitsu. Using your opponents’ movements, momentum and focus to your advantage need not be limited to the physical realm. Josh Waitzkin, who include the use of this technique to win the Tai Chi Chuan world championships, would also in chess, on his path to winning nationals, find ways to take advantage of his opponents sense that they had made an effective attack to lure them into a false sense of security causing them to let their guard down and overlook his subtle redirection until it was too late.

In a verbal attack, taking the force head on is typically less effective than of you welcome and even agree with the attack. If someone accuses you of being unethical, the expected response is a defensive one. Instead, if you counter with, “thank you for pointing that out, I didn’t realize what I was saying could be unethical” you have begun to disarm them. You can follow with “that wasn’t my intent, but I’d love to hear your perspective…” you shift from a head-on confrontation to standing shoulder-to-shoulder with them looking at what you said, how it could be interpreted or heard. I have found that often in agreeing with a verbal attack on you, that energy can often be shifted in your favor.

Difficult Conversations – What is Heard

What is heard carries more weight than what is said. Understanding how others hear your words can help you learn to adapt your language and approach. In the end, we may discover that what was heard was more inferred than implied. By agreeing with an attacker’s assault, you may find yourself standing shoulder to shoulder next to them and may have converted an adversary into an ally. You can allow your villains to weaken or strengthen you – it all depends on which wolf you feed.

In Difficult Conversations – How to Discuss What Matters Most, Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen also speak to viewing any conflict from a perspective of “contribution” rather than blame – the assumption being that all parties involved typically contribute to some degree to any conflict. When we keep this in mind, it’s also easier to take a shoulder-to-shoulder perspective. Here too though, they focus on contributing factors directly related to the conflict between the two parties and don’t address the other potential Vectors of Influence that may be contributing.

There’s a great TED talk on delivering a receiving criticism as a good thing that challenges us to be better: Adam Grant – WorkLife: How to love criticism.

The Power of “Yet”

Imagine receiving feedback of “you’re not good at giving presentations”, “you’re no expert at running meetings”, “you’re not manager material”, … That phrasing is most likely deflating, taken as criticism, and taken personally. If, however, a slightly altered message it delivered: “you’re not good at giving presentations yet”, “you’re no expert at running meetings yet”, “you’re not manager material yet”, … It can evoke a curiosity. An eagerness to discover what’s missing may result. The impact is lessened and the intent can now be easily framed as helpful. Again, solving a problem or making an improvement is better done in shoulder-to-shoulder collaboration than in face-to-face confrontation. Including “yet” helps establish that you believe in them and their intent.

We’ve since invited Bi-Jingo back a few times to have more classes with actors acting out being the employee receiving feedback and not quite hearing it as exercises for our managers, and everyone has found it to be a very effective way to work through improving on such conversations.

Kim Scott’s Radical Candor

Radical Candor Quadrants

In her book Radical Candor – Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity, Kim Scott describes four quadrants for feedback. Scott explains how caring for someone and remaining silent in terms of providing constructive criticism is actually holding them back from improving. She refers to it as “Ruinous Empathy.” She also describes the opposite of that where you don’t care at all and provide feedback obnoxiously and aggressively. Scott further goes on to also speak to how we receive feedback.

Over the years in sports, business and private life, I’ve discovered that with a simple twist in perspective, I can receive feedback delivered as “Obnoxious Aggression” with the positive benefits of Radical Candor. I seek the value I can extract and recognize that every time someone points out a weakness or failing of mine, they are actually doing me a favor by showing me where I can work on being stronger and more successful. This also dis-empowers any aggressive intent to tear me down. Yes, it sounds easier than it is at first, but once you realize you can do it, it becomes a lot easier.

As Helen Reddy once put it

“You can bend but never break me
‘Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
‘Cause you’ve deepened the conviction in my soul”

Feedforward instead of Feedback

In “”Try feedforward instead-feedback” Marshall Goldsmith suggests:

“There is a fundamental problem with all types of feedback: it focuses on the past, on what has already occurred—not on the infinite variety of opportunities that can happen in the future. As such, feedback can be limited and static, as opposed to expansive and dynamic.“

While I appreciate the notion and thought that stands behind it, part of the premise is that feedback focuses on mistakes in the past that we can’t change and that we’d rather not be reminded of. Instead, the premise I’m putting forward here is that we see them as gifts of learning opportunities. That being said, seeing them as learning opportunities is actually looking forward as these gifts won’t change the past. However, the value in the gift is that it will change the future.

What does the collective wisdom in Generative AI say?

In today’s world of Digital Transformation happening in parallel to Human Transformation, I decided to get an opinion from two Generative AI sources:

CD: What personality type works best in a work culture of “radical transparency” and “radical candor”?
Note: Bard and ChatGPT had different answers to this question – see below:

Google’s Bard’s Response:

Personality types that work best in a work culture of radical transparency and radical candor are those that are open, honest, and direct. These personality types are able to give and receive feedback in a constructive way, and they are not afraid to challenge the status quo. Some of the personality types that are well-suited for this type of work culture include:

  • ENTJ: ENTJs are natural leaders who are comfortable taking charge and making decisions. They are also good at giving feedback and challenging others.
  • ENTP: ENTPs are creative and innovative thinkers who are always looking for new ways to do things. They are also good at giving feedback and challenging others.
  • INTJ: INTJs are logical and analytical thinkers who are good at seeing the big picture. They are also good at giving feedback and challenging others.
  • INFJ: INFJs are empathetic and compassionate listeners who are good at understanding the needs of others. They are also good at giving feedback in a way that is supportive and constructive.
  • ISFP: ISFPs are genuine and authentic individuals who are good at expressing their feelings. They are also good at giving feedback in a way that is honest and direct.

However, it is important to note that no single personality type is perfect for a work culture of radical transparency and radical candor. The most important thing is to be willing to be open, honest, and direct, regardless of your personality type.

Google’s Bard follows with …

Here are some tips for thriving in a work culture of radical transparency and radical candor:

  • Be clear about your expectations. When you are giving feedback, be clear about what you are trying to achieve. Are you trying to help the person improve their performance? Are you trying to build a better relationship?
  • Be specific. Don’t just say “good job” or “you need to improve.” Be specific about what the person did well or what they need to work on.
  • Be respectful. Even if you are giving negative feedback, be respectful of the person’s feelings. Remember that they are trying their best, and they want to improve.
  • Be open to feedback yourself. If you are open to feedback, others will be more likely to be open to your feedback.

Radical transparency and radical candor can be a challenging work culture, but it can also be very rewarding. If you are willing to be open, honest, and direct, you can thrive in this type of environment.

Open AI’s ChatGPT Response:

A work culture of “radical transparency” and “radical candor” values open and honest communication, direct feedback, and a willingness to confront difficult issues head-on. In such a culture, certain personality traits and characteristics are particularly well-suited:

Traits:
  • Assertiveness: Individuals who are comfortable expressing their thoughts and opinions clearly and confidently are often successful in cultures of radical transparency. They don’t shy away from difficult conversations and are willing to speak up when necessary
  • Empathy: While radical transparency promotes honesty, it’s essential that individuals also demonstrate empathy and understanding toward their colleagues. Being able to deliver candid feedback in a way that considers others’ feelings and perspectives is crucial
  • Resilience: In a culture where direct feedback is the norm, individuals need to be resilient. They should be able to accept criticism constructively, learn from it, and bounce back from setbacks without becoming overly defensive.
  • Open-Mindedness: People who are open to new ideas, different perspectives, and alternative solutions thrive in a culture of radical transparency. They are more likely to embrace change and adapt to evolving situations.
  • Communication Skills: Strong communication skills are vital in a culture where candid conversations are encouraged. Effective communicators can express their thoughts clearly and listen actively to others, fostering productive dialogue.
  • Self-Awareness: Knowing one’s own strengths and weaknesses is crucial in a culture that values self-reflection and feedback. Self-aware individuals are more likely to acknowledge their areas for improvement and work on them.
  • High Integrity: A commitment to honesty and ethical behavior is a foundational requirement in a culture of radical transparency. Individuals with high integrity are more likely to maintain trust and credibility.
  • Courage: It takes courage to provide honest feedback and to be open about one’s own mistakes. Individuals who aren’t afraid to face uncomfortable situations and make tough decisions are valuable in such a culture.
  • Adaptability: Organizations with radical transparency often evolve rapidly. Those who can adapt to changing circumstances, technologies, and strategies are better equipped to thrive in this environment.
  • Team Orientation: While individual accountability is crucial, collaboration is also essential. People who can balance direct feedback with a sense of teamwork and collaboration tend to excel in this culture.
  • Leadership Skills: In a culture of radical transparency, leaders must lead by example. Leaders who are open, approachable, and willing to receive feedback themselves set a positive tone for the entire organization.

OpenAI’s ChatGPT concludes:

It’s important to note that not everyone’s personality traits align perfectly with such a culture, and that’s okay. Diversity in personality and communication styles can be beneficial, as long as there is a shared commitment to the principles of radical transparency and radical candor. Additionally, organizations should provide training and support to help employees develop the skills necessary to thrive in this culture and create a safe and constructive environment for candid communication.

Radical Candor in Coaching

The Co-Active Training Institute, is the oldest and largest international organization to train coaches to be in service of their clients in helping them grow. Much of the coaching terminology is about being candid, holding the client and accountable and challenging them. Clients pay their coaches to help them grow. Being candid and challenging, when done appropriately, is in service of the client. As leaders and managers, we create a win-win scenario when we see the relationship as being symbiotic. We can and should be candid with and challenge those we lead. Even in coaching, Kim Scott’s notion of ruinous empathy exists in that if we only coddle and never challenge our clients implies that we are not really helping them.

Aspects of Candid Coaching

Co-Active Coaching includes various aspects of being candid and challenging clients:

  • Accountability – holding clients to account for what they said they were going to do.
  • Asking Permission – opening the door to access areas of focus. For example, “May I tell you a hard truth?”
  • Challenging – requesting that a client stretch way beyond his or her self-imposed limits, AND SHAKES UP THE WAY THEY SEE THEMSELVES.
  • Commitment – asking a client “What are you committed to?”
  • Evoking Transformation – a coach’s job is to call forth the greatest possibility for the client.
  • Forwarding Action & Deepening Learning – moving the client forward.
  • Goal Setting – keeping clients focused and on track toward who they are becoming.
  • Holding Focus – the coach’s job is to keep the client on track and true to that course.
  • Inquiring – to provoke further reflection.
  • Intruding – a coach may need to intrude, to interrupt or wake up a client who is going on and on, or who is kidding himself or herself.
  • Powerful Questions – holding the client’s agenda and either forward the client’s action or deepen their learning.
  • Requesting – designed to forward the client’s action. The request includes a specified action, conditions of satisfaction and a date or time by which it will be done.
  • Taking Charge – a coach may need to take charge and direct the coaching back to what is most meaningful to the client.

Pure Storage’s Founder’s Take

Pure Storage Message

“As we all go through our journey at Pure, remember that we are evolving and changing.
We will never reach perfection, but we should always be striving to do better.
This concept of evolution and change is something that we have incorporated into our company values in
everything you should be asking yourself:
Is there a better way? Can we improve this?
Great ideas for improvement come from all of us. Never be satisfied with the way everyone else has done it. Be satisfied with the right way, the best way and please drive that spirit into everything we do.”

– Coz – Founder and CTO, Pure Storage

Radical Candor, Meaningful Conversations with Your Boss

One of the most difficult forms of feedback can be “Upward Radical Candor.” People in leadership or authority roles who may also have lots of experience may feel their perspectives hold more weight. They might also have a certain ego that may helped them get to the level they are at. Furthermore, they may have a very direct power over your destiny within an organization, they could control whether you get a raise or promotion. They could determine what interesting assignments you get, or not. If they feel challenged by you, that could influence how much you enjoy your job.

Having them appreciate and trust that you’re coming from a place of wanting to help may be seem and often be trickier than providing feedback to a subordinate or even peer. However, if done effectively, it can greatly improve the work environment, how things are done and truly help the person receiving the feedback. No one is always “right” in every decision they make or perspective they hold. We all can and should continuously learn and grow.

One approach I’ve found useful is the “help me understand …” approach. If you hear or observe something that you feel could be done “better,” you could lead with “Help me understand as I thinking I’m missing something. I would be inclined to take a different approach, and I would appreciate learning the benefits of your approach. Of course, if used too often, they’ll see through it, but will tend to still appreciate this approach as it leaves all perspectives open to consideration without declaring one ass better or worse.

Radical Candor by the Numbers

P.S. Laura from Bi-Jingo in opening, also mentioned a study that showed managers could have a 39% impact on employee productivity through meaningful conversations. Searching finds the study Managing for High Performance and Retention An HR Toolkit for Supporting the Line Manager which pulled from Datasets with more than 90,000 employees from 135 organizations supported the analyses presented with that report. I do believe there can be very substantial impact on employee performance through good management. However, I’m skeptical the causality could be isolated and measured that precisely. It’s an interesting read nonetheless.

Radical Candor by the numbers

CD

See Also

On Upward Candor:

On the need for holding people accountable and why leaders struggle with it:

Radical Candor in Coaching

The Co-Active Training Institute, is the oldest and largest international organization to train coaches to be in service of their clients in helping them grow. Much of the coaching terminology is about being candid, holding the client and accountable and challenging them. Clients pay their coaches to help them grow. Being candid and challenging, when done appropriately, is in service of the client. As leaders and managers, we create a win-win scenario when we see the relationship as being symbiotic. We can and should be candid with and challenge those we lead. Even in coaching, Kim Scott’s notion of ruinous empathy exists in that if we only coddle and never challenge our clients implies that we are not really helping them.

Aspects of Candid Coaching

Co-Active Coaching includes various aspects of being candid and challenging clients:

  • Accountability – holding clients to account for what they said they were going to do.
  • Asking Permission – opening the door to access areas of focus. For example, “May I tell you a hard truth?”
  • Challenging – requesting that a client stretch way beyond his or her self-imposed limits, AND SHAKES UP THE WAY THEY SEE THEMSELVES.
  • Commitment – asking a client “What are you committed to?”
  • Evoking Transformation – a coach’s job is to call forth the greatest possibility for the client.
  • Forwarding Action & Deepening Learning – moving the client forward.
  • Goal Setting – keeping clients focused and on track toward who they are becoming.
  • Holding Focus – the coach’s job is to keep the client on track and true to that course.
  • Inquiring – to provoke further reflection.
  • Intruding – a coach may need to intrude, to interrupt or wake up a client who is going on and on, or who is kidding himself or herself.
  • Powerful Questions – holding the client’s agenda and either forward the client’s action or deepen their learning.
  • Requesting – designed to forward the client’s action. The request includes a specified action, conditions of satisfaction and a date or time by which it will be done.
  • Taking Charge – a coach may need to take charge and direct the coaching back to what is most meaningful to the client.

Radical Candor, Meaningful Conversations with Your Boss

One of the most difficult forms of feedback can be “Upward Radical Candor.” People in leadership or authority roles who may also have lots of experience may feel their perspectives hold more weight. They might also have a certain ego that may helped them get to the level they are at. Furthermore, they may have a very direct power over your destiny within an organization, they could control whether you get a raise or promotion. They could determine what interesting assignments you get, or not. If they feel challenged by you, that could influence how much you enjoy your job.

Having them appreciate and trust that you’re coming from a place of wanting to help may be seem and often be trickier than providing feedback to a subordinate or even peer. However, if done effectively, it can greatly improve the work environment, how things are done and truly help the person receiving the feedback. No one is always “right” in every decision they make or perspective they hold. We all can and should continuously learn and grow.

One approach I’ve found useful is the “help me understand …” approach. If you hear or observe something that you feel could be done “better,” you could lead with “Help me understand as I thinking I’m missing something. I would be inclined to take a different approach, and I would appreciate learning the benefits of your approach. Of course, if used too often, they’ll see through it, but will tend to still appreciate this approach as it leaves all perspectives open to consideration without declaring one ass better or worse.

Radical Candor by the Numbers

P.S. Laura from Bi-Jingo in opening, also mentioned a study that showed managers could have a 39% impact on employee productivity through meaningful conversations. Searching finds the study Managing for High Performance and Retention An HR Toolkit for Supporting the Line Manager which pulled from Datasets with more than 90,000 employees from 135 organizations supported the analyses presented with that report. I do believe there can be very substantial impact on employee performance through good management. However, I’m skeptical the causality could be isolated and measured that precisely. It’s an interesting read nonetheless.

Radical Candor by the numbers

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See Also

On Upward Candor:

On the need for holding people accountable and why leaders struggle with it:

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